How To Build A Healthy Friendship

"Just Remember

If We Get Caught,

You're Deaf And

I Don't Speak English"

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Some people leave memories in our heads or hearts, some come and go quickly that you didn't even notice them.

Growing up, I struggled to find a best friend. I never understood how everyone around me calls just anybody their best friend. Of course I've been a best friend to some people but to me, a high title such as 'best friend' couldn't be easily taken or given by anyone. That is why many people has stories where their best friend talk behind their back, isn't there when they need them, made their partner leave them and so on.

To be honest, I've never been back stabbed because I never really found my best friend. 

But by not having a best friend yet, but I do have a BCFF which stands for 'Best Cousin Friend Forever' who is definitely my cousin and that gold title was made when we were young and didn't learn much English. I learned that I don't need to find my best friend because the more you look for someone, the more lost you get in the crowd of billions. Best friends are like soulmates. You don't find them, you bump into them accidentally or not.

I've been told that I've always been the calmest in the family and the problem solver by my friends. But, sometimes I can be a very bad tempered person. So, what type I've been 'dreaming' of is the best friend that pushes me to reach my goals and doesn't leave me to be an outcast in a group of friends. I'm always socially insecure so I would want my best friend to never complain about it because complaining on insecurities is never gonna help. Instead, I want them to understand and guide me so she\he could help me through the field of observing eyes, giant listening ears and criticizing mouths.

1. Support Eachother

To keep a healthy friendship, the both of you has to be the backbone of the friendship. Like it or not, both of you are the ones keeping the friendship together. A fail of being the backbone of the friendship will lead to conflicts about the same person trying so hard to keep the friendship going. It is also unhealthy because it will lead to stress and short temper. If your bestfriend isn't doing anything to keep the friendship together, then that person is not worth your hardwork. Never think twice about it unless that person is facing problems that she needs time to solve it.

2. Understand Conditions

Next, be an understanding bestfriend. Think about how she's feeling and try to understand her chart of emotions. If she's feeling blue, you should be the shining Sun to make her day brighter. Then, she'll still do the same because that is what friends are for. To hold eachother from falling into a deep pit.

3. Trust Eachother


Having trust issues is a problem that most people have but not to our bestfriend. We would tell our pretty little secrets and would keep them. But, never do something that will make people lose trust in you especially with your bestfriend.

4. Be Twins


Best friends are inseparable which makes them unbiological twins. The good thing about twins are that they would always be with eachother at all times. If you do something, they would do it just as long as it's not gonna risk your life.

5. Be yourself


The common thing about friendships are they would be a total different person with their best friend. Having a best friend means being what you are inside and not caring what people think.





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